"I’ll be married in less than 5 months. I’m very interested and eager to hear about God’s truth and how it should be applied in my life and in my marriage. I desire to know about the plan God’ has made for my life with Luke. I want the help and wisdom from those older and more experienced in life who have walked this path before me. I do know a lot of information about sex ( you don’t need to worry, mom, I don’t know too much) but Luke and I have purposely fought to keep ourselves pure, knowing this is God’s best for us, although it has not been an easy decision. Our sex-saturated culture sees nothing wrong with engaging in sexual intimacy before marriage and I have often gotten weird looks from my unbelieving coworkers and friends when they learn that Luke and I are not yet living together.
But now that the wedding day is finally approaching, I see that our relationship will be taken to a whole new level this June 19th. We’ll be living together under the same roof, eating at the same table, sleeping in the same bed- it’s a whole new kind of closeness. We’ve heard a lot about the role that sex plays in marriage.
I’ve heard the warningso Don’t expect too much- For a man it’s like winning the lottery, for a woman it’s like receiving a piece of chocolate. Nice, but not incredible
o You’ll get tired of it after the honeymoon, but he’ll always want more
o It isn’t romantic like in the movies
But now that the wedding day is finally approaching, I see that our relationship will be taken to a whole new level this June 19th. We’ll be living together under the same roof, eating at the same table, sleeping in the same bed- it’s a whole new kind of closeness. We’ve heard a lot about the role that sex plays in marriage.
I’ve heard the warningso Don’t expect too much- For a man it’s like winning the lottery, for a woman it’s like receiving a piece of chocolate. Nice, but not incredible
o You’ll get tired of it after the honeymoon, but he’ll always want more
o It isn’t romantic like in the movies
I’ve been given poor adviceo Lying is often involved to assure your husband he’s doing a good job when really you’re unsatisfied, but don’t let him know that.
o Accept that sex is for men
o You can use sex to make your husband do the things that matter to you.
My own heart wants to believe
o That all will be perfect and I’ll never have problems in that area because we love each other
o God created sex for husbands and wives so all should be well
I’ve looked around and observed other couples
o Affectionate couples who “still love each other” I want to be like them
o Fun-loving couples who still laugh and enjoy each other’s company- hoping I will still be like that
o My own father who brings home flowers “just because” Hoping my husband will always do nice things for me, and is that selfish for me to want that?
o My mom and dad going to Duluth for their honeymoon?… I went to San Diego, Ca for my engagement! I better start preparing myself for reality.
o Dull, boring marriages (from my perspective) who look like they stopped enjoying marriage years ago.
o Marriages that seem to be held together only by children
o Pornography and the filthiness of sex everywhere
o Broken marriages, heartache, betrayal- this would never happen to me, could it?
What is God’s plan? What is God’s perspective on sex? What should a Christian woman’s perspective be on this? And should we be having this discussion? How much of sex and its issues should be broadcasted? Do my husband and I keep all of our sex issues and problems between us? What would you older woman tell me about sex? And how does it relate to God? "
o Accept that sex is for men
o You can use sex to make your husband do the things that matter to you.
My own heart wants to believe
o That all will be perfect and I’ll never have problems in that area because we love each other
o God created sex for husbands and wives so all should be well
I’ve looked around and observed other couples
o Affectionate couples who “still love each other” I want to be like them
o Fun-loving couples who still laugh and enjoy each other’s company- hoping I will still be like that
o My own father who brings home flowers “just because” Hoping my husband will always do nice things for me, and is that selfish for me to want that?
o My mom and dad going to Duluth for their honeymoon?… I went to San Diego, Ca for my engagement! I better start preparing myself for reality.
o Dull, boring marriages (from my perspective) who look like they stopped enjoying marriage years ago.
o Marriages that seem to be held together only by children
o Pornography and the filthiness of sex everywhere
o Broken marriages, heartache, betrayal- this would never happen to me, could it?
What is God’s plan? What is God’s perspective on sex? What should a Christian woman’s perspective be on this? And should we be having this discussion? How much of sex and its issues should be broadcasted? Do my husband and I keep all of our sex issues and problems between us? What would you older woman tell me about sex? And how does it relate to God? "
~Sarah, 20 years old, (to be married June 19th of this year)
Dare we just assume they'll figure it out, display complacency in our own lives, or leave the brilliant truths of God's Word undeclared?
I think not.
Will you join with me to both declare and display God's brilliant design?
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