In doing some study on the Body of Christ for a recent SS session, I came across much practical yet thought-provoking material. I’ve decided to share some of it with you. Here is the first of my ‘finds’.
Quick Tips:
If You’re Thinking About Leaving A Church…
(From What is A Healthy Church? by Mark Dever)
BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE:
1.Pray
2. Let your current pastor know about your thinking before you move to another church or make your decision to relocate to another city. Ask for his counsel.
3. Weigh your motives. Is your desire to leave because of sinful, personal conflict or disappointment? If it’s because of doctrinal reasons, are these doctrinal issues significant?
4. Do everything within your power to reconcile any broken relationships.
5. Be sure to consider all the “evidences of grace” you’ve seen in the church’s life—places where God’s work is evident. If you cannot see any evidences of God’s grace, you might want to examine your own heart once more (Matt. 7:3-5).
6. Be humble. Recognize you don’t have all the facts and assess people and circumstances charitably (give them the benefit of the doubt).
IF YOU GO
1. Don’t divide the body.
2. Take the utmost care not to sow discontent even among your closest friends. Remember, you don’t want anything to hinder their growth in grace in this church. Deny any desire to gossip (sometimes referred to as ‘venting’ or ‘saying how you feel’).
3. Pray for and bless the congregation and its leadership. Look for ways of doing this practically.
4. If there has been hurt, then forgive. Even as you have been forgiven.
NOTE: I'm not considering leaving our church. But this is a list I will file away as it is rich in Biblical wisdom and heart search reminders. ~Elaine
7. Let your friends know, so they can give you a "surprise" going away party at the local Holiday Inn. (I know you'd like that. But I am relieved you're not considering going anywhere:)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this. This evaluation of our reasons for leaving is much needed in our churches today.
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